It’s Thursday once again and we’re back with my favorite book meme, #ThrowbackThursday created by Renee of It’s Book Talk (https://itsbooktalk.com/) as her way of sharing some of her favorite oldies but goodies books that were published more than a year ago. Check out her blog to see her TBT recommendations this week 🙂
Love The One You’re With
by Emily Giffin
This is the story for anyone who has ever wondered: How can I truly love the one I’m with when I can’t forget the one who got away?
Ellen and Andy’s first year of marriage doesn’t just seem perfect, it is perfect. There is no question how deep their devotion is, and how naturally they bring out the best in each other. But one fateful afternoon, Ellen runs into Leo for the first time in eight years. Leo, the one who brought out the worst in her. Leo, the one who left her heartbroken with no explanation. Leo, the one she could never quite forget. When his reappearance ignites long-dormant emotions, Ellen begins to question whether the life she’s living is the one she’s meant to live.
The story began with Ellen Graham, who reasoned she’s got OCD and thus counted the days since she got married with Andy. And it had been eight years and sixteen days since she heard his voice again. And bumped into him while walking the streets. Her ex lover’s voice. Her former flame. The one that got away. Her Leo.
Ellen got great taste in photography, she had the talent and skill. So when Leo offered her a job to take pictures of celebrities, she grabbed the opportunity. She didn’t tell her husband Andy about her encounter with Leo. No, she hid it and managed to forget about her husband while she was with her ex. As the reader, I was hurting.
Andy no longer filled her wife’s thoughts. Andy seemed to be getting farther and farther away from Ellen’s mind. Andy, poor Andy.
After reading the book, I was left hanging. I didn’t know what I am looking for, but somehow, I felt like there should have been more story to it. While I was contented with how Ellen and Andy ended, I still had this feeling that Ellen shouldn’t have done what she did. But it was just me.
“Sometimes there are no happy endings. No matter what, I’ll be losing something, someone. Maybe that’s what it all comes down to. Love, not as a surge of passion, but as a choice to commit to something, someone, no matter what obstacles or temptations stand in the way. And maybe making that choice, again and again, day in and day out, year after year, says more about love than never having a choice to make at all.”
Emily Giffin expertly wove a tale of love entangled with infidelity, trust, presumptions, choices and decisions. While I have been vocal about my uneasiness with unfaithful married couples, I couldn’t really put down a good book. The author’s writing had been effective, because it made me mad at her and Ellen. To me, that’s a brave trait authors should all practice and possess!